Nelson Can – Going Through The Emotions

2 months ago   |   Words: Rebecca Durband

Inspired by acts including The White Stripes, Bikini Kill and The Doors, Scandinavian trio Nelson Can were born to perform powerful rock. Based in Copenhagen, the band formed in 2011. We were able to catch up with all three girls to discuss all things wellbeing. 

What are you listening to, reading and watching at the moment?

Selina: Right now I am actually not listening to a lot of music. I know it must sound a little strange, but at the moment we’re writing new music, and for me I need to turn off all other sonic worlds in order to concentrate my brain and ears on the goal to produce new stuff. But I’ve been very into Alex Cameron just to name one. I just read “Ready Player One” by Ernest Cline, and I really want to recommend it to everyone – blown away, I just bought “Armada” straight after. Oh and I’m playing God Of War on PS4!

Maria: I listen to a lot of podcasts. Right now it’s a Danish podcast called ‘Police Radio’ (‘Politiradio’). It’s a weekly show covering older and current criminal cases in Denmark. The host is a crime reporter and the two co-hosts is a former police officer who used to specialize in gangs. The hosts are really clever, intelligent, and funny. For my birthday I got a subscription for the Danish newspaper ‘Information’. The newspaper is fairly leftist and cover both politics and culture. I love reading the old fashioned printed versions of newspapers. It’s also a good excuse to spend 3 hours eating breakfast and reading. At the moment I’m following the Season 10 finale of RuPaul’s Drag Race, an American reality competition searching for “America’s next drag superstar”. If you’re a sucker for performers with charisma, uniqueness, nerve and talent, this is the show for you. I’m rooting for Eureka O’Hara!

Signe: I listen a lot to a Danish band called Kellermensch, many of their lyrics are about feeling like a loser, and not being able to live up to the idea of what a ‘real man’ is. I think it is very honest and poetic and I love it. I just finished reading some crappy paperback I bought in Gatwick airport a few months ago. Don’t remember the name of it, and I guess it doesn’t matter because I wouldn’t recommend it to you anyway, haha. But I did get a laugh or two out of it, so it wasn’t a waste.

What has been your biggest life challenge so far and what did you do to overcome it?

Selina: In high school I was in a very dark place with anxiety. It paralyzed everything I enjoyed doing. I felt so down and alone, and felt like no one could ever understand how I felt. But my mom sent me to the doctor, and after waiting for a whole year I got my first session with a brilliant psychologist. She made me realize, that I had a “textbook” case of anxiety (which actually made me very, very calm, haha), and that I was NOT alone, AND that it could be helped if I took part of the process proactive. After 9 sessions, I felt I had gotten my life back. Sometimes I can still feel like I lost two years of my life to anxiety. That I somehow need to make up for them in my work. That I’m older on the outside that I am on the inside, because my mind was in a constant coma of “fight or flight”-mode back then.

Maria: I’m always in a either a state of working like a crazy or a total couch potato. There is no middle ground for me. Every time I’ve been put in a position where I’m pushed to my limits, it has always been my own choice.  And I’m very much aware that if I can’t take way the cookie crumbles, I have to leave.

Signe: I think that my biggest life challenge always has been, and probably always will be, how much pressure I put on myself to always perform well and do my best. I constantly have to remind myself that there are things in life that I simply cannot control and even if I could, I am not supposed to control everything. I just need to be a bit more relaxed and enjoy life, which of course is not as simple as it might sound. To me it helps being verbal about it and just talk openly and rationally about whatever I am dealing with and accept it, not as a part of me, but as a part of life.

What have you learned about yourself over the past five or so years?

Selina: That a strong friendship can turn ugly, when you forget to “nurse” it while striving for a shared dream. That work can get in the way of being creative – and losing your creativeness as an artist can mean you begin to doubt your whole existence. But having the courage to say to one another “we need a break from each other because we love each other” – accepting that and actually taking that break – you can overcome anything! That’s what happened to us for 6 months, and then we wrote EP3 together and began to play live again. We found each other again and kept believing it our shared dream and hard work.

Maria: I’ve learned to be better at keeping my mouth shut and think before I speak. I’m much more aware how people get affected by my words and actions. Free speech is not an excuse to be ignorant and hurtful. That said, I’ve also learned to use my energy on good people, and not waste time on people with their head up their you-know-what.

Signe: That it’s a waste of life to be at war with myself. In my early 20s it was difficult to face that I’d never be a size 4, that I was never going to be a straight A-student and that I probably won’t ever get rich or Instagram-famous either, but once I got over those things I felt so much more content and happy.

What would constitute a ‘perfect’ day for you?

Selina: Uuuuh, that’s a tough one! A perfect day for me, is when I can manage to do all the things I feel like I need to do that particular day. A day where I can combine creativeness,  laziness and love. Here’s an example of a perfect day: “Wake up, go to the studio and creative new music, then go home and play PlayStation (turn my overthinking brain off), then spend time with my loved ones over good food”. Combining three things I couldn’t do without.

Maria: I don’t get to see my extended family so often, so I love when my family get together for Christmas or Easter lunch. It’s just such so nice when all my family is gathered over good food and a little bit of beer and snaps. I can get really wrapped up in my own life and lose track of what is important for me. Then it’s nice to touch base with my roots.

Signe: I keep telling myself that there is no such thing as perfect. Not even a perfect day. A good day to me is a day where I am not stressed out.

For what in your life do you feel most grateful?

Selina: My continuous ability to channel my inner child and feel completely consumed by my imagination.

Maria: My family. My mom and dad who raised me to be a fairly decent human being.

Signe: My stubbornness. I am not necessarily good at the things I do, but I am so stubborn that and refuse to give up, which I think it covers up for it sometimes and helps me in the end.

Complete this sentence: “Ace mental health for me means…”

Selina: Feeling my body and my mind in balance. No one, not even myself, can get me down.

Maria: Being well feed. Don’t mess with me when I’m hangry.

Signe: Looking at myself in the mirror and feeling content.

What do you eat to stay healthy?

Selina: I try to always buy organic and/or local. I never followed a specific diet, but I always just make sure to eat looooots of greens and very varied.

Maria: I generally eat what I want, when I want. But lately my jeans have been getting pretty tight around the waste, so the very obvious choices for me are: Don’t eat chocolate every fucking night. Don’t drink beer every fucking night.

Signe: I am very aware of eating fresh greens every day (vegetables – not just fruit) and at the moment I try to eat as little processed sugar as possible because it turns my energy-level into a rollercoaster ride and I hate that feeling of ‘crashing’ in the afternoon. I am also aware of not thinking TOO much about what I eat though, because I can become a little too controlling – especially if I am stressed.

Do you have a daily routine of exercise or do you make it up as you go along?

Selina: No, I can for some periods of time, and then we go on tour or have something else that changes the schedule drastically – so I actually always just try to stay content with no routines. But I can feel in balance with my body, if I go to the gym every other morning and work out all my stress.

Maria: In the summertime (and sometimes in the winter) I like to go swim. I prefer outdoors swimming and the water quality in Copenhagen harbour is very clean. I hate running at home but when I’m traveling or touring I try to bring my running shoes and get a run in. It’s a good way to discover new places.

Signe: No. I should have, but I don’t. One thing all of us do every day though is ride our bicycles. I think it is standard to ride your bike for 5-15 kilometers every day when you live in Copenhagen. And then I try to plan my time so that if I’m not in a hurry and have to go somewhere I will walk and get that extra little exercise in.

Here at The Mind Map we remember playing football and ‘tag’ – running around the playground every day and loving it – can you share a similar memory?

Selina: My answer here is very similar to Signe’s actually! I used to love hanging out with kids outside in the afternoon after school. Just doing stupid stuff and playing softball. I used to be really good at swimming, and in the water we would play water polo – also a very underrated game, haha.

Maria: During the summer I was playing football everyday with the neighborhood kids. Once I chugged a pint of water after a long day of playing on the sun. When I rode my bike back home I puked over the bike handlebar. How about that! Good memories…

Signe: When I was a kid all the kids from the street would gather after school and play soft ball or hide and seek and even though we weren’t necessarily that close in age we always had a good time.

What three songs lift your spirits?

Selina:
‘Big Love’ by Fleetwood Mac – just everything about it.
‘Happy Ending’ by Alex Cameron – I love his lyrics and voice.
‘When The Levee Breaks’ by Led Zeppelin – not so much because of the lyrics, but because of the drums and the sonic world you get sucked into.

Maria:
Bonnie Tyler – Total Eclipse of the Heart
Hedwig & The Angry Inch – Wig In a Box
Madonna – Vogue

Signe: I think it changes a bit from time to time, but it could be something like:

Wham! – Club Tropicana
ZZ Top – La Grange
Sarah Klang – Strangers (It might sound weird, but if I’m feeling down, I put on a super sad song and cry it out, and then I feel so much better afterwards)

What is your favourite self-help book, or motivational quote?

Selina: In Danish by Piet Hein: “Husk at elske mens du tør det – husk at leve mens du gør det” – which means you should love while you dare, and live while you do. Simple but such a power in those words.

Maria: As the philosopher Jagger once said, “You can’t always get what you want, You get what you need”.

Signe: We have a saying in the band which translate to something like “The worst thing that can happen, is that it goes wrong” (Danish: “Det kan højst gå galt”). If you can convince yourself that it’s not really that big a deal to fail at something, then you worry less and you move on faster if it actually goes wrong. You might even learn something from it.

What advice do you offer to friends when they are feeling overwhelmed?

Selina: Let yourself feel it, and tell someone. There’s no need to hide it away in a box somewhere so it can grow out of proportion. Sometimes you just need a little help from your friends. And hey! – it’s awesome to be vulnerable at times! It may not seem like it in the moment – but vulnerability makes great music, art, books, poems etc. You be you!

Maria: As the philosopher Homer once said “…alcohol! the cause of and solution to all of life’s problems”.

Signe: Allow yourself to be overwhelmed. You are not a failure just because your life didn’t turn out to be all rainbows and unicorns all the way through. It is okay to get overwhelmed sometimes, and when you are ready to talk about it, please do. It can be such a relief to just open up and be honest about how you feel.

False Heads – Going Through The Emotions

2 weeks ago   |   Words: Mark Taylor   |   Photography: Natalie Curtis

Having recently shared stages with The Libertines and Queens of The Stone Age, East London’s False Heads are proving they can transition from punk-rock basement gigs onto bigger platforms without compromising the intensity of their live show. With new recorded material soon to be released, Frontman Luke Griffiths discusses the importance of keeping your internal fire raging, and how to stop negative mental thoughts from putting it out: “Why does Shawshank Redemption get the number one film on IMDB? It’s life-affirming innit, it’s that hope that things can better”.

What are you working on at the moment?

We’re going on a 22-date UK/EU tour in September. Our latest EP ‘Less Is Better’ is being released across September and October. First as digital release in September, then we’re having the physical release and launch show party at Dingwalls, Camden in October. We’re already talking about an album too. We’re thinking about it pretty seriously, we’ve got the songs ready. I want to re-record some of the old songs for it and I’d like to record our more delicate stuff that we never really get a chance to show off live. I don’t want it to be flat out heavy punk music, I want it to be diverse, we want to create a body of work. Looking at the timeline, we’re looking to have the album ready late next year. We’ve got a lot of stuff going on.

What has been your biggest life challenge so far and what did you do to overcome it?

To be honest I’ve suffered from depression for as long as I can remember. Since I was 11 maybe, pretty heavily. I get bouts of it, then it sort of goes away then comes back. I’ve got a condition that causes me to have seizures that led to anxiety. I tried counselling for a bit and I tried antidepressants -they didn’t really work. I’ve got a good doctor that’s helping me deal with anxiety. The way I overcame it – well not overcame it because it’s not something you ever really overcome – is channelling it into something.

For me that was music, it was always music. It was writing lyrics, it was playing guitar that helped me channel that pain and misery that I felt. And also being a bit more open about it. I didn’t quite understand why I was feeling so miserable all the time. It’s that cliché of ‘Do I have a reason to be this miserable?’  I know the people I can talk to about it now: my girlfriend, and eventually my family. That stuff is never an easy conversation.

Depression tries to put out your fire, and you’ve got to do the right things to keep the fire going inside of you. Channel it into something you love – a hobby or a sport. Don’t let it define you, accept you’ve got a mental health issue, but you don’t have to let it take over your life, you can fight it . You’ve got to be willing to face it front-on and not allow that fire inside to be put out.

What would constitute a ‘perfect’ day for you?

Probably write a good tune, having a few drinks with my friends, having sex, playing an amazing gig and hanging out with my mates and girlfriend afterwards –  that’ll probably do the job. Or even things like sticking your favourite sitcom on or something.

What are you listening to, reading and watching at the moment?

I’ve been listening to quite a lot of Strange Bones and Calva Louise, and also a bit of resurgence in Elliott Smith, who I’d say is one of my favourite artists. Probably not the greatest example to give on mental health because he stabbed himself in the heart…or did he? There’s conspiracies surrounding it.

I read Radical by Maajid Nawaz. A story about his upbringing, he joined an extremist Islamist group, went to prison, read George Orwell in prison. He left prison, tried to secularise and reform his religion. Safe to say I’m not a fan of organised religion at all, he’s a bit of a hero of mine.

I watched Mindhunter, the one about the FBI detective after the Manson killings, and he goes around interviewing all the serial killers at that time. Based on a true story. It’s on Netflix, It’s incredible.

For what in your life do you feel most grateful?

My family, my friends, my girlfriend and music. I’m grateful for the drive I’ve got to make the band work. I’ll take some credit for that. I don’t really mind sounding like a conceited prick because I work really hard with the band and our music to get where we are. I’ll take it as far as I can possibly take it. I’ll take it to the very end.

Complete this sentence: “Ace mental health for me means…”

I’d say it’s waking up and being glad that you didn’t die in your sleep. If you wake up and you look forward to the day, that’s ace mental health.

What do you eat to stay healthy?

When I’m at home I do try and eat healthy. It’s difficult when you’re on tour, you do eat shit – until you’re getting catering and that when you’re in U2 or whatever. I’m trying to be a vegetarian, I’m trying to cut fish out. I don’t know if that’s had any real impact – that decision wasn’t because of any mental health issues, I just didn’t want to eat animals anymore. I don’t really miss it that much.

Do you have a daily routine of exercise or do you make it up as you go along?

I do a bit of boxing, a bit of jogging, sit-ups in the morning that type of thing. It does make a difference. I don’t have any real routine or anything, I just try to get in some sort of exercise. It does just make you feel better.

Here at The Mind Map we remember playing football and ‘tag’ – running around the playground everyday and loving it – can you share a similar memory?

I used to get these little Thomas The Tank Engine things, these wooden train tracks when I was a kid and my Mum and Dad got me a load of them. I think it might have been my 5th birthday. The whole day I was occupied with this little train set and I was really happy. Apart from that I’m really struggling to remember. Oh, and Florida. I went to Florida, I think I was 10 and I went on The Hulk ride with my Dad. Quality ride. I was in my element as well because I loved comics, I loved Spider-Man, they had Spider-Man wandering around in a pretty sick costume, and the Spider-Man ride where he webs you. That day was amazing.

What three songs lift your spirits?

A Question Mark by Elliott Smith – even though the lyrics are still pretty dark, I think it’s a great song.

Karma Police by Radiohead, for that uplifting awe-inspiring feeling. The ending, even though it’s still quite melancholy, there’s something about ‘For a minute there, I lost myself’. I actually think that section of that song is one of the greatest bits of music ever made. Including classical music and everything. It’s otherworldly.

Guerilla Radio by Rage Against The Machine if I was just gonna go for a flat out something that would get me pumped up.

What advice do you offer to friends when they are feeling overwhelmed?

If you feel like you need to speak to someone – speak to someone. Don’t question yourself. Speak to the person that you feel is best to help you, if they’re not about, speak to the second best person. And if you’re feeling completely overwhelmed there is no weakness or shame in it to ask anyone for help. Don’t let that fire go out inside of you.

 

Maven Grace – Going Through The Emotions

3 weeks ago   |   Words: Rebecca Durband

Maven Grace  are comprised of friends from Hong Kong, Connemara, Rome and London. Individually they have performed at Glastonbury and written Hollywood film sources. We caught up with the band’s Jason Magnus to discuss growing up in Hong Kong. 

What was it like growing up in Hong Kong? It’s a busy place!

Hectic and beautiful. The city moves at an insane pace but it’s also an island with the most calming coastline. I grew up in Hong Kong under British rule, then left for a few years, and when I returned it had been handed back to mainland China, all the while the city has always craved its own independence. So there’s a bit of a local identity crisis which feeds into the manic atmosphere of the city – it can drive me crazy at times but I definitely can’t live without it.

A large part of the population in Hong Kong practices Buddhism, is this something that you do?

Hong Kong is pretty multi faith actually – I’d say there’s an equal number of Buddhists and Taoists, as well as Christians in the city, and Confucian values are heavily followed in local education. I’m not a Buddhist though I believe in meditation and my wife and I try to fit in a Qigong session (a type of Chinese meditation involving rhythmic breathing) everyday – she’s more disciplined with it than I am.

Would your agree mental health awareness in Hong Kong and China has grown in the past decade?

Not really and I think it’s something that should be more widespread. Hong Kong can be very stressful with a huge emphasis on school grades for kids and earning a decent pay packet for young adults who can barely afford to live in one of the most expensive cities in the world. I’d say mental health awareness in Asia probably lags a bit behind the west because, out here, you really feel that there’s only so many hours in a day.

What are you listening to, reading and watching at the moment?

I’m loving ‘Prequelle’, the new album by Ghost, particularly the song ‘Dance Macabre’ and I watched Collateral the other day – no one makes movies quite like Michael Mann. And that scene where Audioslave is the soundtrack to Jamie Foxx speeding his taxi in the LA night…it really made me miss Chris Cornell’s voice.

I’m reading The Ground Beneath Her Feet by Salman Rushdie and I really don’t recommend it.

What has been your biggest life challenge so far and what did you do to overcome it?

Having music be an active part of my life instead of a passive one. The industry means it’s getting harder to be an artist and there’s a lot of sacrifices made by yourself and those closest to you in order to even have a taste of something you believe in. I’m in a band where everyone lives thousands of miles apart. The day we officially released our first song made things seem possible.

What have you learned about yourself over the past five or so years?

How much I need my friends. I’m an only child and the older I get, the more I realise I shouldn’t take my friendships for granted.

What would constitute a ‘perfect’ day for you?

Playing my old vinyl records, a couple of glasses of pinot noir, and a bowl of ‘sorrowful’ honey roast pork rice (incidentally, the winning dish in Stephen Chow’s God of Cookery)

For what in your life do you feel most grateful?

My parents, my wife – she gives me the balance I always thought I could do without.

Complete this sentence: “Ace mental health for me means…”

Staying calm when a storm is brewing.

What do you eat to stay healthy?

I drink a glass of hot lemon water first thing in the morning and last thing at night.

Do you have a daily routine of exercise or do you make it up as you go along?

Make it up though I try to do about 30 mins of exercise each day to kick up a sweat.

Here at The Mind Map we remember playing football and ‘tag’ – running around the playground everyday and loving it – can you share a similar memory?

Kicking a football in the parking lot after school with friends.

What three songs lift your spirits?

AC/DC – It’s a Long Way to the Top.  Rock ‘N’ Roll’s greatest band at their most youthful.  Remember this song playing at the end of School of Rock with all those Ramones posters in the background?  Music with no cynicism, it’s just pure joy.

Wu-Tang Clan – Triumph.  I have no idea what this song is about but the way I feel when all the MC’s each take turns on the mic makes me feel pretty invincible.  Inspectah Deck’s opening verse is just insane.

Bruce Springsteen – Thunder Road.  There’s a bunch of Springsteen songs that make me feel hopeful about realising impossible dreams, but Thunder Road makes you feel like you just swam the Atlantic and still have something left in the tank to walk across America.

What is your favourite self-help book, or motivational quote?

“You got to roll with the punches to get to what’s real” – Van Halen ‘Jump’

What advice do you offer to friends when they are feeling overwhelmed?

It’s ok to talk about it and time is a healer.

Redwood – Going Through The Emotions

3 weeks ago   |   Words: Rebecca Durband

Alt Hertfordshire five piece Redwood have recently released new single ‘Mother.’ – touring alongside the likes of Sam Duckworth, Indian Lakes and Fish Tank. We chatted to vocalist Conor Bond about family challenges and his junk food ban.

What are you listening to, reading and watching at the moment?

Hello! I’m having a hard time latching onto any new music at the moment. This isn’t for any kind of weird self-righteous reason, however I really enjoyed the new Young The Giant single that Alex (vox/guitar in Redwood) showed me the other day. Aside from that I’m sort of revisiting records that I’ve loved over the years. I’ve listened to American Football LP1 and Brand New Eyes by Paramore about 20 times each in the last two weeks. I’m currently reading Shantaram by Gregory David Roberts – I work at a golf course and one of the members whom I talk to about books quite a bit let me borrow it. My watching situation is pretty much the same as my listening at the moment. I just finished Brooklyn 99 for the 6th time. I will probably start Community again soon, and then watch the Harmontown documentary for the 100000th time.

What has been your biggest life challenge so far and what did you do to overcome it?

In the latter years of his life, my Grandad suffered with dementia. After having a pretty bad accident at home in Belfast, he moved in with us in Hertfordshire. He also had a major back surgery which we all helped in his recovery process, which was great, but exhausting, especially at 17/18 years old. It was pretty terrifying to watch someone who used to be so sound of mind (literally the most intelligent person I have met, even to this day) suddenly regress mentally and eventually come to no longer recognise you. I was told by my parents that this was “one of life’s shitty hands and you just have to get on with it, unfortunately”. We were all in the same boat so at least we had each other. Carrying him out of the church with my dad, his brother, and my brother was obviously heart-wrenching, but there was a small piece of happiness in that unity, and within that I thought to myself, “This is our last ride, George.” My friends came forward for emotional support in that time too, and I still don’t let them forget how grateful I am that they were there.

What have you learned about yourself over the past five or so years?

I’m 23 in less than a month, so five or so years ago I was still a teenager, so there has been plenty to reflect upon. I think above all, I have learned that I have a tendency for anger that can spiral out of my control pretty quickly. Although I don’t think this is uncommon amongst men, let’s be honest.  To combat this, I have tried really hard to work on patience and perspective. I’ve learned that it is so much easier to let things go and move on, than it is to hold onto something that has pissed you off and harbour feelings of resentment towards someone. By doing this, it’s only ever going to come out piece by piece on your friends, family or significant other, rather than the person who you’re holding the grudge against, purely because you don’t actually have the bollocks to confront this person who has “done you wrong”. I feel that it’s important to be able to see the bigger picture when it comes to these sorts of things. A co-worker has pissed you off? So what? You’ve got the weekend off; you don’t need to think about stacking shelves for the next 50 hours, nor do you need to dwell on a person you don’t see outside of your place of employment not doing a menial task “properly”. Let it go.

 What would constitute a ‘perfect’ day for you?

Waking up when my body tells me to. No alarm clock. A cup of tea within 30 minutes of waking up. All my mates also having the day off work. Clear blue skies, about 21/22 degrees. Maybe a nice meal out in the evening. I don’t know. There’s perfection in every day at some point if you’re looking for it.

For what in your life do you feel most grateful?

I hate to sound like matey off that “Every Pop Punk Vocalist” video, but I am incredibly grateful for my friends. I’m surrounded by a group of very hard-working, intelligent and creative people. Everyone is working on their own stuff right now and we’re all at a very similar point, where we’re almost at like a fork in the road. We’re all the verge of “taking the plunge” and you know, going balls to the wall and risking it all for our “art”*. I like that we have that in common, especially as none of them are trying to make it in a band. * I put “art” in quotes so I didn’t sound so pretentious, but I guess this disclaimer has hit that one home innit.

Complete this sentence: “Ace mental health for me means…”

Waking up in the morning and saying to myself “I got this”. Then proceeding to crush it throughout the day with whatever (if anything) needs doing without any mental roadblocks.

What do you eat to stay healthy?

My girlfriend and I are doing our best to cut out sugar and crisps and just general junk food. It’s not super difficult for us, as we’ve been vegan for over two years, so it’s just more fruit for when we want something sweet and it’s an extra handful of spinach on our plates at dinner.

Do you have a daily routine of exercise or do you make it up as you go along?

We’ve also gotten back into the gym. So we’re pumping iron 4-5 times a week – you don’t realise how good for you two hours a week of PE was until you’ve left school. I also play football a couple of times a week. I started taking my physical fitness a bit more seriously when I realised that a half-hour set onstage would KILL me.

Here at The Mind Map we remember playing football and ‘tag’ – running around the playground every day and loving it – can you share a similar memory?

When I was in Year 5 (9/10 years old), I got picked to start for the school football team. Five minutes into the first half, I Cruyff-turned this Year 6 kid who was easily a foot taller than me (I was a very small kid) and unleashed a rocket off my right laces (not unlike Stevie G). The ball struck the underside of the crossbar and dipped under the keeper’s head. I couldn’t believe it. I even got a shout-out in the next-day match report in assembly.

What three songs lift your spirits?

1) Never Meant – American Football

For a number of reasons. A) I first heard American Football shortly after getting a car. So Never Meant always reminds me of the freedom I felt being able to drive myself to work and college. I’m also on the American Football shit-posting group on Facebook – someone posted an amazing video of a compilation of Jordan Pickford saves in the 2018 World Cup, all syncing up with the first snare hit in Never Meant. I’ll send you a link.

2) Blood I Bled – The Staves

My girlfriend got me into The Staves. She found them on YouTube years ago and we both fell in love with them instantly. Any of their songs remind of the weightlessness of being 16/17. Anyway, this song gets me SO fired up. It builds so cleverly and all the instrumentation blends together as if it was crafted by a higher being. Near the end of the song also, is one of the best uses of tension and release I have EVER heard.

3) My Name Is Jonas – Weezer

Need I say anything?

What is your favourite self-help book, or motivational quote?

Quiet, by Susan Cain. It’s not really a self-help book, however it provides a pretty in-depth insight to the study of Introversion vs Extroversion. Not versus as in “meet me in the Thunderdome”, just talking about the differences etc. Anyway I picked up a copy when I was about 16; prior to this, I hadn’t heard of the concept of introversion and extroversion, but reading this book answered so many questions and almost justified what I had previously thought to be strange behaviour throughout my life. Nope, just an introvert mate.

What advice do you offer to friends when they are feeling overwhelmed?

It depends on what is making them feel overwhelmed. If it is a creative or interpersonal issue, I will suggest that a person should take a break and remove themselves from that environment for a short while. Whether it’s 5 minutes or 24 hours. Step back, reassess, jump back in. If it is something that isn’t quite as simple and can’t be solved by just calming down, whether it be money or work issues, I would suggest that you try to see the problem from someone else’s perspective. Not to belittle how someone may be feeling, but instead to encourage someone to come up with a logical solution to their problem. It’s a bit like asking someone for advice, but for control freaks.

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